In the midst of a disagreement, many couples may ask themselves, "What are we really fighting about?" As it turns out, breakups and divorce don't happen because couples fight, they happen because of how couples fight. In this much-needed book, Judith and Bob Wright-two married counselors and coaches with over thirty years of experience helping couples learn how to fight well-present their tried-and-true methods for exploring the emotions that underlie many relationship fights. Readers will learn how to use disagreements as an opportunity to deepen their understanding of their partner, bring more intimacy to the relationship, strengthen their bond, and learn from the conflicts and tensions that occur in all relationships.